to Transform Your Painful Emotions Into Joy With the Eight Step Emotional
Author: I Create Joy - The Art of
you love to be able to learn from your emotions in a powerful way, and
create more happiness in your life?
this recipe when you find yourself suddenly dealing with negative and
painful emotions. This process lets you fully feel and learn
from the emotion as quickly as possible. Then you can move on
and learn from each experience. This recipe has helped so much
in my life.
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Accept full responsibility for the emotion.
Even if you don't fully believe it right now, tell yourself, "I
Create My Reality, and I am Creating this Emotion Right
Now". Usually, people never get beyond step one because
they actually believe that outer circumstances are causing their
Name the emotion. Giving
the emotion a name increases your clarity, awareness, and
consciousness. Don't just say you feel sad or bad or
mad. Expand your emotional knowledge until you can positively
identify the feelings of violation, disappointment, anxiety, shame,
embarrassment, and many more.
Let go of the story. The
story is whatever it is outside yourself that you think caused the
emotion. Literally "see" the story being cut off
from your emotion and fading away. Let go of the story but
keep the emotion that you created and which now has a name.
Bless the emotion.
Blessing the emotion means not judging it as good or bad.
Accept the emotion in a spirit of gratitude and learning. This
is necessary in order to do the next step properly.
Feel the emotion. With no
judging or resistance, simply feel the emotion. Notice where
you feel the emotion physically in your body. Raise your
consciousness as you become a "witness", a kind of
observer of your own processes. What you resist persists, and
allowing the emotion in this way is the very opposite of resistance.
Ask for clarity. In a
spirit of learning and willingness to grow, ask for insight as to
the reason for the emotion. Don't go back to the story.
The "cause" of the emotion is you, and nothing outside
yourself. Ask "What do I need to learn from this
emotion." Also ask "What ineffective belief do I own
that created this emotion."
Identify the belief.
Create a space for the answer to come, and it will come. At
the root of nearly every painful emotion is an ineffective
belief. You may believe that you must make everyone
happy. You may believe you can't be loved if you are not
perfect. You may believe that you are simply not worth it.
Replace the belief. Once
you have identified the belief, choose to replace it with a more
effective belief. Literally say to yourself, "I now
choose to reject this (ineffective belief) and adopt this
(empowering belief) in its place".
- You will find that during the last four steps of the process,
something magical has happened! The painful emotion is gone,
completely transformed into something else. The reason for this
magic is the clarity and increase in consciousness.
people resist their painful emotions with intense energy, which only
keeps them festering and in pain for hours. By allowing yourself
to feel in a spirit of openness and acceptance, you can learn your
fantastic side benefit is that you now have a powerful new belief in
place! You can grow more in a few weeks than you have in the
past years by practicing this process diligently.