Result Do You Want?
What End Result Do You Want?
By Thea Westra
Ever noticed that when you have swags of time to complete a
task then it takes much more time to complete it than is
I'm aware of a similar phenomenon with money. When I have my
mortgage or health insurance debited from an account before
funds are paid through to me, it's amazing how that amount is
not missed and I easily live within the amount that I receive.
Yet when provided my total funds available first, how hard it
is to pool the amount needed to pay that mortgage and
The thoughts in my mind and the gift that is my life, are not
unlike these two scenarios. When I leave such vacuums in my
mind and my life, they will be filled for me. Moment by moment
and usually with other people's agendas. My points of focus are
then not my own. The distractions that can fill the voids are
The first thing that I work on with clients is "What end result
do you want?”
This one question can be such a struggle. In fact, some people
never begin working with me because they cannot answer that
question - not recognizing that a coach will first work with
you to crystallize your vision. Often the initial responses
given are, what we think that others think that we should want
for ourselves. Sometimes the answer is even what ‘we think'
that we think we want!
If I can give no authentic response to that question then I
must be living from someone else's agenda. It cannot be any
other way. My thoughts and activities cannot have been
allocated a specific focus if I find myself aimlessly bobbing
on the waves.
My mind operates like a filter and also as radar. With all the
stimulus coming at me then what is my brain filtering out, and
on what is my mind focused?
If I feel that I have fewer options in life and am experiencing
overwhelm then I have not got clear with what I really want and
my life will be an expression of survival or chaos. When
there's no mental image... expect total confusion!
I am much more inspired when firmly grounding my goals in what
I want and where I ultimately want to go rather than basing my
goals on what I have or what I have done.
The other thing to recognize here, is that there is no right or
wrong answer to the question "What end result do you want?".
There is also not always a single answer nor multiple answers.
That is completely personal.
How do you come about the answers for you? There are a myriad
of ways to get access to what touches your heart and what would
fulfill your life. It's one of the reasons that I load this
e-zine up with so many "triggers" for you.
Working one to one with a coach over a period allows for
setting aside time for focused conversation; exploring many
avenues and then gradually exposing the desired outcomes that
"fit like a glove" for you.
This quote may be a good place to begin your inquiry:
"View life as a series of movie frames, the ending and meaning
may not be apparent until the very end of the movie, and yet,
each of the hundreds of individual frames has meaning within
the context of the whole movie. View your life from your
funeral, looking back at your life experiences, what have you
accomplished? What would you have wanted to accomplish but
didn't? What were the happy moments? What were the sad? What
would you do again, and what you wouldn't?" ~Victor Frankl~
About the Author: ©2005 Thea Westra is an international life
coach who resides in Perth, Australia. She is editor and
publisher of a free, monthly newsletter which you can receive
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